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Taking the role of the victim allows them to feel sorry for themselves and have a ready-made excuse for things not going the way they think they should. It also means not having to change their own behaviornothing is ever admitted to being their fault, so nothing needs changing. |
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This type feels they have been cheated of their rightful place in life. They adopt what is known as a "poor me" stance to the world. They think they deserve attention, approval, admiration, and status. But they don't get it. And rather than try and understand why, it is much easier for them to see the cold, cruel world as denying them what they think they deserve. |
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Often, they have, in fact, had a hard life. Either little opportunity, poor education, a physical or mental disability, childhood deaths in the family, or deep love disappointment may be part of the personal history. Unlike other, more psychologically hardy and resilient people, they never seem to recover from early trauma or disappointments. For example, some of the Vietnam vets of my generation became victims and could never overcome their traumatic war experiences. |
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Because they are carrying a grudge, the victim-blamer often appears to others to have a "chip" on his or her shoulder. They are easily irritated or annoyed with others and quick to express it. Because of this, they often have trouble working cooperatively with others. |
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Some victim-blamers are chronically angry and depressed. Finding it so difficult to form trusting relationships, they may be rather isolated in their lives. When they turn their anger toward themselves, they appear withdrawn and depressed. When they externalize and actively blame others, they appear angry and even rageful. |
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They tend to project onto others their own desire to exploit and victimize. This means that rather than admit their own interest in making other people objects of whom they can take advantage, they deny this and instead see others as having the very same motive toward them. |
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This is what it means to project one's own motives onto another. When held in control, it may surface as suspicion and caution with others. When taken to an extreme, it results in paranoid thinking and delusions of persecution. |
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Victim-Blamer: Money Management/Trading Style |
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Victims err by not understanding their own part in creating their fortune and misfortune, always seeing the outside world as the cause. |
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